Habit 4: Think Win-Win ~ Everybody Can Win! We all need to remember that thinking of others beside ourselves is very important. Finding ways to positively think through a situation is a great way for us to keep the feelings of others a part of problem solving. When we exhibit the Win-Win habit, we are exhibiting the Golden Rule: "Treat others the way you want to be treated."
Student example: The next time you want to argue or fight with someone about who should get the best toy, think about Win-Win. You should ask yourself, "How can I make you happy too?"
Think Win-Win is an attitude toward life, a mental state of mind that says I can win, and so can you.
For young children, play-time and sharing can sometimes be hard. Encourage your child to compromise with friends during play by taking turns. At school, Habit 4 is taught in this child-friendly way: I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. When conflicts arise, I look for a win-win solution.
Reinforce Habit 4 at home with discussions that focus on good and bad competition, sibblings squabbles, and expectations. Click HERE for family activities!
The following book was chosen to illustrate Habit 4. Common and easily accessible at most libraries and bookstores, this
book is a fun and interesting way for children to connect to the timeless principles. You will begin to see examples in other children's literature and soon your child will too!
Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister
The Rainbow Fish believes he is the most beautiful fish in the ocean, so he won't play with the other fish. Once he has no friends, he seeks out advice and is told to give away some of his beautiful scales. While he initially refuses, he decides to be a leader and Think Win-Win. He gives away just one scale, but when he realizes how good it makes everyone (including himself) fell, he shares even more scales and has never been happier.